I wanted to post this up earlier but never seem to be able to..never mind..

To be brief i wont talk about the daurah itself (went there last Saturday and Sunday) but just a tiny-tiny part of it..

so here's the script:

the situation lets say is when I and 'Mens rea' were at a cafe. They where talking until suddenly I asked a question on whether 'Mens rea's' mother also wore the purdah'. The reply was a 'No' which eventually resulted to a whole new story.

In short, both her parents didn't even know she wore it (well she thought so). So fine I was ok about that (well, i do share almost everything with my parents [mostly my mom] but not everything, so we're in the same boat). But that isn't my point in posting this post up, to be frank 'Mens rea' talked and talked until she came to the part where she informed me that 'Actus reus' parents also did not know about her doings (as in wearing the thing) but unfortunately for 'Actus reus' her big bro saw her, recognized her (duh,they are siblings right?-it must be obvious) and later on informed her parents which then resulted to a dispute with her father, who didn't approve of her actions. So in the end she just respects her father's decision and do as told. But in truth, little that he knows that actually she stills wears it in places unforeseeable by him that is.

The main question here is weather we are allowed to go against our parents order, as the case or the order isn't opposing anything in Islam ("it is a positive and respectful practice that actually liberates women, because it brings about an aura of respect"). Now, it is important to differentiate between purdah and hijab (for those, who don't know yet). "Hijab is an Islamic tradition that is based on physical and psychological morality, while purdah does not necessarily conform to Islamic teachings".

So again, should we or should we not obey our parents in situations like this? I remember a story of when Rasullullah S.A.W had told a few kids to go back home and ask their mother's permission first before allowing them to engage in the battle with the prophet,(this doesn't oppose Islam teachings,correct?). To be just, im stil searching for the answer and would ask my 'teacher' in the comming 'MDP'(as we used to say so in the old days) anyway as an ending to this post i'll end with the sentence 'saya budak masih belajar' so please 'correct me if i'm wrong'.


reference- http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Purdah

http://departments.kings.edu/womens_history/purdah.html